Create a More Meaningful Connection in Your Relationship
Have you ever done something kind and the receiver seemed to not appreciate the effort? I know this is frustrating because you want to let them know how you feel about them, but you may not be doing it in THEIR language.
‘Love Languages' describe different ways a person could show love or appreciation to any significant relationship (e.g. romantic partner, friend, parent/guardian, child, etc.). It’s important to love this person the way that THEY want to receive love, not the way YOU want to receive love. Understanding these differences is essential when meeting the needs of the ones you care for, and vice versa!
According to Dr. Chapman, there are five love languages:
Words of Affirmation: This person needs to hear how you feel about them to feel loved.
Ideas: Give compliments; say that you’re proud; brag to others about them; write letters or notes; encourage them; tell them you love them, etc.
Acts of Service: This person needs to receive practical support to feel loved.
Ideas: Take on a difficult task for them; help to lighten their load; clean up the house; cook a meal; do things without them having to ask, etc.
Receiving Gifts: This person needs thoughtful gifts and gestures to feel loved.
Ideas: Prepare a lunch; pick out their favorite snack when you’re out; don’t forget special days (birthday, anniversaries); bring them flowers, make something from the heart, etc.
Quality Time: This person needs uninterrupted time and focused conversation to feel loved.
Ideas: Put your phone away; weekend getaways; listen without multi-tasking; make eye contact; schedule date nights into the calendar; eat meals together; take walks together, etc.
Physical Touch: This person needs non-verbal body language and touch to feel loved.
Ideas: Hugs, kissing, holding hands, reassuring touches, sit closely together, playing in their hair, cuddling, etc.
Learn your love language and discuss it with your loved one: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/
You're one step closer to strengthening and improving your connections!
Arlesha Pugh, Graduate Intern