The Power of Connection
Brené Brown, the wonderful human that she is, defines connection as “the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
That’s a world-class definition, right? I thought so too.
Many times, we think of connection as the standard: you + me. That’s wrong. Connection is so much more than two people, as connection can be seen physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually (to name a few). When you think of connection, I want you to picture a link between yourself and someone else or yourself and something else. This “link” will be the beginning of your connection.
Types of Connection
To better understand connection, it’s important to become familiar with common types of connection.
Physical – the power of touch, physical closeness and close proximity; this can be platonic, romantic, athletic, familial, etc.
Emotional – the power of vulnerability, trust and emotional intimacy; this can be sharing secrets, asking for advice, sharing knowledge, etc.
Mental – the power of acceptance, abstract thinking and theoretical conditions; this can be expressing thoughts, discussing perspectives, embracing intellect, etc.
Spiritual – the power of believing, searching for a greater good; this can be reading, writing, singing, talking, praying, etc.
These types of connection are how we relate to one another, how we interact with one another, and how we link ourselves to one another. We can also feel a connection to things such as music, art, film, poetry, animals and athletics. But even with these connections, what’s the point?
The Importance of Connection
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, connection is a link. A link for something closer, a link for something more meaningful. Connection is essential for our functioning – on any level. We need connection in order to survive, to find purpose, and to feel fulfilled. Connection is the key for many doors and it’s important that we embrace it.
When we lack connection, we can feel alone and isolated. These feelings can be triggering, which have the potential to create intense negative feelings that may become overwhelming. Not only will having a connection to someone or something be helpful during trying times, but they can also help prevent trying times from happening.
Ways to Find Connection
Seeking out connection can be intimidating. Where do I start? How do I know if it’s authentic? There are so many moving parts when establishing a connection that it’s tough to find a starting point.
Here are some easy ways to start finding a connection:
Start a conversation with friends
Listen to a podcast about something that interests you
Give your time volunteering
Join a club or group
Schedule a hang-out with someone
Read about a topic of interest
Pursue your faith
Join a gym or team
The Power of Connection
Connection keeps our worlds intertwined. Connection allows us to explore, innovate, trust, love, create and simply be.
Connection gives us the permission and the power to be who we are and to enjoy the things that inspire us.
Dariah Wixon,