The Self-Love Club

If learning to love yourself is the journey, then feeling self-love is the destination. Self-love is the epitome of self-care, and we deserve to love ourselves as much as we love others.  

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Loving Yourself First 

 

Society tells us that picking yourself is selfish, that picking yourself means you don’t care about others, etc. But that’s not true. Picking yourself is healthy, picking yourself is empowering, and picking yourself is OKAY. 

Have you ever heard the phrase, “You can’t pour from an empty cup?” Well, it’s true. In order to keep your cup full, you need to start picking yourself – period. Setting boundaries, valuing your own time, and choosing to make yourself a priority is OKAY.   

When you practice picking yourself, you’re practicing self-care and you’re practicing self-love. 

 

How You Love Yourself Matters 

 

I cannot stress this enough, but how you love yourself matters. The way you love yourself, treat yourself, and talk to yourself is the way you teach others how to love you, treat you, and talk to you. The relationship you have with yourself can influence the relationships you have with others.  

When loving yourself is natural, when loving yourself is a priority, you will attract those who will value your self-love. Surrounding yourself with friends, family, and partners who value your self-love are those to keep around. 

 

Why This Matters 

 Plain and simple, you’re a worthy person.  

Ways to Practice Self-Love 

Practice self-love the way you practice self-care. Whatever makes sense for you and your life is worth doing. Some examples of self-care are: 

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  • Reading a book 

  • Taking a bath 

  • Getting a manicure 

  • Going to the gym 

  • Taking a nap 

  • Watching TV or Netflix 

  • Burning a candle 

  • Treating yourself to something nice 

 

When you translate self-care into self-love, it’s all about your perspective. Like I mentioned earlier, how you treat yourself and how you talk to yourself is going to be key. Keeping this in mind, some examples of self-love are: 

  • Practicing good self-talk 

  • Nourishing your body with healthy foods 

  • Getting a full 8-hours of sleep 

  • Practicing gratitude and find something positive in each day 

  • Be honest with yourself and don’t be afraid to ask for help 

  • Celebrate your ups and downs equally 

  • Remind yourself of your worth and value 

Now I can definitely hear the argument for self-care and self-love overlapping, but the overall point is to put yourself first. Treat yourself with kindness, give yourself grace, and know that your stock is worth a lot.  

 

Mindset is everything, love yourself first. 

Dariah Wixon,
LPC

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