Screen time: is it really THAT bad?
The question of screen time looms over many modern parents, provoking anxiety, overwhelm and feelings of shame. Parents ask themselves “How much screen time is too much? What about educational content? But I just want some time to myself!”
Every child is different and it is important to consider their age, developmental and behavioral needs. With this said, technology isn’t going anywhere. As parents the best you can do is model and a healthy relationship with technology for your child. It is possible to use technology for the tool that it is and to not be consumed by it. Rather than stressing about specific time limits for your child, check out considerations below when creating a healthy screen-time environment in your home.
What’s the content? Don’t worry, Not everything needs to be educational. Is it age appropriate? Would it encourage body image issues? Could the topic of the show encourage a healthy conversation as a family?
Can it be used as an opportunity for connection? How great that we have access to a variety of shows and games at our fingertips! Use technology to increase closeness, not isolation. This also applies to peer relationships. Is your child’s time spent online hindering their ability to form relationships? Are the relationships safe and appropriate? Also is this show something the whole family can enjoy together?
Do you notice dysregulation or behavior concerns related to screen time such as sleep disruptions, tantrums or difficulty in school? Have a collaborative conversation with your child about their observations and ideas to improve the problem.
What is the cost?- What is the time spent on a screen holding your child back from? Activities, time outside, time with friends, etc. But the reverse can also be true-if some screen time allows you a peaceful shower or siblings who aren’t arguing, go for it!
Some quick hacks to also add to your screen-time plan:
Don’t buy your young child their own tablet. You will be forced to share your phone with them, naturally decreasing their phone time.
Have one shared TV in the house and definitely don’t put TVs in bedrooms!
Model the behavior you want to see! Have regular activities as a family with no screens involved. Practice a house rule of protected time where no one is on their screens. Put your phone away when you are with your child.
-Aeriel Feeback, LSCSW, RPT™
For more information, and further discussion on social media, visit the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry at Screen Time and Children (aacap.org) or the APA at What do we really know about kids and screens? (apa.org)