How to Determine When Challenging Behavior Is Not Typical
Children and parents can have bad days, but if noticeable changes in mood are happening often, there could be an underlying mental health issue.
Understanding a child’s behavior can be difficult sometimes. All children have trouble from time to time with emotions, but unlike adults, children are not as good at regulating their emotions. How do you determine when challenging behavior is typical or something more? Let’s start by asking yourself the questions below.
Are my child’s problems getting in the way of his or her day-to-day functioning? A tantrum or procrastination getting ready in the morning, avoiding chores or homework and/or getting to bed on time can be typical. However, if this behavior happens daily, or multiple days a week, for many weeks without successful redirection, this is worth looking into with the help of a professional.
Does my child get enough sleep, exercise and nutrition? Adequate sleep, exercise and nutrition are essential for healthy kids. If you feel your child is lacking in any of these areas, set some goals to make sure these needs are met.
Can my child stay focused when they need to? Sure, children get distracted. But if not being able to focus is preventing them from getting their homework done each week, it may indicate a mental health problem.
Does my child change moods for no apparent reason? Children and parents can have bad days, but if noticeable changes in mood are happening often, there could be an underlying mental health issue.
Is my child flexible with changes to their routine or new situations? All parents hear “I don’t want to” at some point. But if it feels like a struggle whenever something unexpected happens, it’s worth looking into further.
Did something scary or violent happen to my child? When children experience an event that is extremely upsetting or violent, they can develop symptoms and behaviors that may need specialized treatment.
Parents and caregivers are in the best position to observe and consider their children’s behavior. Communicating what you know and asking questions of yourself and mental health professionals can support children in overcoming barriers to mental health. The earlier you raise concerns, the easier it is to reduce symptoms and improve your child’s well-being. Just like your child’s physical health, there is a certain time when you may need to get a professional’s help.
Lori Cull-Deshmukh, LMSW, CPT
Child & Family Therapist
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